So did you guys hear about that lady who tweeted Delta to ask about their in-flight breastfeeding policy?
I don’t want to give it any more attention than it’s already received, but I do just want to throw out a few things that came to mind when I heard this story.
I do not think the folks at Delta were trying to be assholes, I think they were trying to help. They were saying hey lady, if you’re anxious about breastfeeding on a mothafuckin’ plane (which is a plausible conclusion to draw, as she went to the trouble of asking them about it before her flight), you’re welcome to bring some pumped milk along with you. We allow that! With all the prohibited items, retinal scans and body cavity searches we have to go through to get on a plane these days, isn’t it nice to know that airlines allow moms to bring pumped milk onto a flight?
Also, and this seems to be the major point of contention among breastfeeding moms every time something like this comes up: WHY SHOULD I HAVE TO COVER UP? So I’m going to TRY not to sound like a misogynistic asshole when I say this: nobody cares about your boobs.
Should you be able to breastfeed wherever the fuck you want? Of course. Should you be able to sit there with your boobs out, spraying milk all over the plane? Maybe, but could you try not to? Is it too much to ask that you acknowledge there are other people who also have needs, and that they are sitting less than two inches away from you? I guess I just feel like some moms give the rest of us a bad name by acting as if the whole world owes them a debt of gratitude just for existing. Why must everyone but you be courteous?
But none of that even matters! Because it wasn’t ever about whether or not she could nurse on the flight, or whether or not she should cover up. She tweeted them to start shit.
When you Tweet at a business like that, there’s an implied threat behind it. You’re doing it to provoke a confrontation, and you want other people to see it. Otherwise, you call them or email them like a normal human being.*
After Delta’s initial response, she (and others) continued to bait them, and then harangue them for an apology. ARE YOU SAYING I CANNOT BREASTFEED MY CHILD? ARE YOU GOING TO LET MY CHILD STARVE TO DEATH? LOOK, NOW YOU’VE GONE AND KILLED MY CHILD! WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO TO APPEASE ME?
Unless you give me #freeshit…
If all she wanted to do was feed her baby, why Tweet them about it at all? I breastfed my baby on an airplane once and guess what? Nobody even said anything or knew about it because it was NO BIG DEAL. I didn’t even have to inform the Pentagon! (But maybe I should have made it a big deal because pageview$$!)
The way I see it, Delta’s mistake was not having some Advance Mommy Martyr Protection Verbiage all ready to go. If they had smelled that social media shitstorm right from the beginning and acted accordingly, they would be patting themselves on the back right now instead of doing damage control.
What do you think? Am I naive? Am I just super sheltered in my totally progressive, open-minded, free-boobing suburban Indiana (LOL) bubble? Or is there really an evil culture in our country against breastfeeding?
*This is funny too: she claims she DID try to call Delta before tweeting, but that she was put on hold for 45 minutes and was then told to tweet customer service about it. Goddamn it, are you kidding me? What do they tell meemaws and peepaws and other people with no internets or no Twitter? My husband has ZERO social media presence whatsoever, and If they told him to do this, he’d laugh his ass off and ask to speak with a manager. It just doesn’t sound like something they would actually ask a person to do. Hi, do you have a policy about ___? / Yeah probably but I’m busy right now, can you just tweet us?